{"id":400,"date":"2019-06-20T12:12:54","date_gmt":"2019-06-20T12:12:54","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lifestylerz.us\/?page_id=400"},"modified":"2022-11-05T22:58:42","modified_gmt":"2022-11-05T22:58:42","slug":"glossary","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/www.lifestylerz.us\/index.php\/glossary\/","title":{"rendered":"Glossary"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<div style=\"height:30px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"has-vivid-red-color has-text-color wp-block-heading\" id=\"warning\">Jargon<\/h4>\n\n\n\n<ol class=\"has-black-color has-text-color has-medium-font-size wp-block-list\">\n<li>Jargon is a double edged sword.  Terms best serve us as tools  to identify complicated ideas and concepts for our convenience. &nbsp;But  once we begin to conform our behavior to the terms &#8212; rather than use  the terms to explain or describe &#8212; they become problematic.  We should  look at people as individuals instead of types.  We need to decide who  we are and what we want as individuals before we try to slip into  categories.  In other words, if there&#8217;s no one special person to whom  you seek to please, <em>don&#8217;t aspire to conform to someone else&#8217;s concept of who you are but instead try to live your own ideal.<\/em><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:30px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-black-color has-text-color has-medium-font-size\">The BDSM community is diverse.  There is no universally  recognized   authority on BDSM and we have no equivalent of the French  Academy for   deciding what words are acceptable and which of their many  definitions   are correct.  Most terms are loosely defined with a wide  degree of   interpretation as to their meaning.  As Larry Towsend writes  in the   Silver Jubilee edition of The Leatherman&#8217;s Handbook,  &#8220;language is not   hard and fast enough to provide a single definition for  every term.    <\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:30px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-black-color has-text-color has-medium-font-size\">There is no magic formula to make each word register  identical images  in the mind of each person who hears it. &nbsp;  Moreover, some  terms such as &#8220;sensual sadist,&#8221; and &#8220;competitive  exhibitionism&#8221; are  personal and carry unique meaning to the person who  coined them.  In  other words, <em>many terms have many meanings depending on who uses them and their mood at the time.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-black-color has-text-color has-medium-font-size\">Many of the terms we use &#8212; such as &#8220;domme&#8221; &#8212; are recently  coined on  the Internet so they don&#8217;t have a long historical foundation. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-black-color has-text-color has-medium-font-size\">Sometimes people use definitions and qualifiers as a means  to assert  themselves over others: &#8220;I&#8217;m a true Old Guard Master. She&#8217;s  not a  slave, she&#8217;s just a sub.  He&#8217;s not a Dom, he&#8217;s just a top.&#8221;  That  kind  of dominance is small. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-vivid-red-color has-text-color has-medium-font-size\">It&#8217;s good to remember that for some perverse reason we in  the scene  enjoy embracing many terms &#8212; such as slave, boy, rape,  torture, and  fetish &#8212; which have very negative connotation outside the  community &#8212;  for understandable reasons.  &nbsp;<em>To avoid misunderstandings, you need to  be aware of what you are saying as well as what you mean to say.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"has-vivid-red-color has-text-color wp-block-heading\">\nBDSM\n\n<\/h4>\n\n\n\n<ol class=\"has-black-color has-text-color has-medium-font-size wp-block-list\">\n<li>Ritualized sexual aggression and submission.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>The exploration, between consenting partners, of alternative or nontraditional forms of eroticism.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>A four letter contraction of three abbreviations for three phrases  &#8212; BD, D\/s, and S&amp;M.   It is an umbrella term encompassing <strong>Bondage &amp; Discipline<\/strong>, <strong>Dominance &amp; submission<\/strong>, and <strong>Sadism &amp; Masochism<\/strong> (or <strong>Sex Magick<\/strong> or <strong>Master\/slave<\/strong>) &#8212; and, to a lesser degree, other concepts such as <strong>Fetishism<\/strong>, <strong>Exhibitionism<\/strong>, <strong>Voyeurism<\/strong>, and occasionally <strong>Crossdressing<\/strong>.  <\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-black-color has-text-color has-medium-font-size\">The first three items are distinct but related concepts.  These three   separate elements are neither mutually exclusive nor synonymous:    Participants in the BDSM community might practice only one of these   concepts or all of them.  For example, someone might like playing the   sexual aggressive role and tying up his lover (while dressed in a   Catholic nun&#8217;s habit) but he doesn&#8217;t want to cause her pain. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"has-vivid-red-color has-text-color wp-block-heading\"> Bondage <\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-black-color has-text-color has-medium-font-size\">The application of ropes, chains, or other restraints placed over  one&#8217;s body &#8212; or parts of one&#8217;s body such as hands and arms &#8212; to  restrict one&#8217;s physical movements. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"has-vivid-red-color has-text-color wp-block-heading\">\nDiscipline\n<\/h4>\n\n\n\n<ol class=\"has-black-color has-text-color has-medium-font-size wp-block-list\">\n<li>A combination of correction and punishment administered by the <strong>dominant<\/strong> to the <strong>submissive<\/strong> for educational purposes and to enforce rules and proper behavior.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-black-color has-text-color has-medium-font-size\">Discipline is something that comes from within a person; a will and   ability to meet expectations.  It can be taught, but it cannot be   forced without a substantial loss of quality.&#8221;  Furthermore &#8220;discipline   as a skill that is prevalent within the context of all relationships  and  roles in life &#8230; I see correction as just that: there has been an   error, fault or problem identified which requires change.  I agree that   if the act was performed with malice or intent to harm or destruct it   may require punishment.  However, depending on the error, it may simply   require review, correction, adjustment, improvement or restitution.    While I am of the opinion that correction in some way, shape or form is   necessary in order to learn from one&#8217;s mistakes and avoid repeating  them  in the future; I feel punishment is above and beyond correction of  an  action and more appropriately addresses unsuitable intent or  attitude. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:30px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-black-color has-text-color has-medium-font-size\">Dominance governing or exercising one&#8217;s will, influence, or control over  another in a consensual &#8212; and ideally mutually pleasurable &#8212; exchange  of power. &nbsp;(Sometimes it is combined with elements of <strong>sadism<\/strong>.)  Submission (often written in lower case) yielding or surrendering one&#8217;s control  to the will or authority of another in a consensual &#8212; and ideally  mutually pleasurable &#8212; exchange of power. &nbsp;(Sometimes it is combined  with elements of <strong>masochism<\/strong>.) Sadism The condition in which (sexual) gratification is gained through  causing pain or degradation to others.  (Sometimes it is combined with  elements of <strong>domination<\/strong>.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:30px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"has-vivid-red-color has-text-color wp-block-heading\"> Masochism  <\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-black-color has-text-color has-medium-font-size\">The condition in which (sexual) gratification depends on physical  pain and\/or humiliation. (Sometimes it is combined with elements of <strong>submission<\/strong>.)In the scene, &#8220;enjoying sensations and feelings caused by things  usually thought of as physically or emotionally painful or disquieting. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:30px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"has-text-color wp-block-heading\" style=\"color:#154bd2\">MALE DOMINANCE<\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-black-color has-text-color has-medium-font-size\">\u00a0<strong>maledom<\/strong>, refers to\u00a0BDSM\u00a0activities where the\u00a0dominant\u00a0partner is male.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-black-color has-text-color has-medium-font-size\">Practices of domination common to many\u00a0BDSM\u00a0and other various sexual relationships are also prevalent, such as various forms of\u00a0body worship, cock and ball worship,\u00a0ass worship,\u00a0fellatio,\u00a0foot worship;\u00a0tease and denial; corporal punishment including\u00a0spanking, breast torture,\u00a0caning,\u00a0whipping;\u00a0orgasm denial; and as well as\u00a0verbal humiliation,\u00a0face slapping, hair pulling,\u00a0dripping hot wax on the genitals,\u00a0spitting,\u00a0golden showers,\u00a0&#8220;forced&#8221; chastity, and\u00a0irrumatio.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-black-color has-text-color has-medium-font-size\">A 1995 study indicated that 71% of\u00a0heterosexual\u00a0males preferred a dominant-initiator role,\u00a0but a more recent study from 2015 indicates that only 29.5% of men who are active in BDSM express a preference for a dominant role, 24% consider themselves to be switches and 46.6% of men prefer the submissive role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:30px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"has-text-color wp-block-heading\" style=\"color:#154bd2\">FEMALE DOMINANCE<\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-black-color has-text-color has-medium-font-size\">A\u00a0<strong>dominatrix<\/strong>\u00a0or\u00a0<strong>femdom<\/strong>\u00a0is a woman who takes the dominant role in\u00a0BDSM\u00a0activities. A dominatrix can be of any sexual orientation, but this does not necessarily limit the genders of her submissive partners. Dominatrices are known for inflicting physical pain on their submissive subjects, but this is not done in every case. In some instances\u00a0erotic humiliation\u00a0is used, such as verbal humiliation or the assignment of humiliating tasks. Dominatrices also make use of other forms of\u00a0servitude. A dominatrix is typically a paid professional (<em>pro-domme<\/em>) as the term\u00a0<em>dominatrix<\/em>\u00a0is little-used within the non-professional BDSM scene.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Jargon The BDSM community is diverse. There is no universally recognized authority on BDSM and we have no equivalent of the French Academy for deciding what words are acceptable and which of their many definitions are correct. Most terms are loosely defined with a wide degree of interpretation as to their meaning. 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