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BDSM includes bondage and discipline (B&D), dominance and submission (D&S), and sadism & masochism (S&M). The terms are lumped together that way because BDSM can be a lot of different things to different people with different preferences <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It doesn\u2019t always involve sex, but it can. <\/h4>\n\n\n\n

Most people think BDSM is always tied to sex, and while it can be for some people, others draw a hard line between the two. Both are bodily experiences that are very intense and sensual and cause a lot of very strong feelings in people who practice them, but they’re not the same thing. The metaphor used for it: a massage. Sometimes a massage, however sensual it feels, is just a massage. For others, a rubdown pretty much always leads to sex. It’s kind of similar with BDSM; it’s a matter of personal and sexual preference. <\/p>\n<\/div>

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There is nothing<\/em> inherently wrong or damaged with people if they\u2019re into it.\n \n <\/h4>\n\n\n\n

This is one of the most common and frustrating misconceptions about BDSM. BDSM isn’t something that emerges from abuse or domestic violence, and engaging in it does not mean that you enjoy abuse or abusing. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Instead, enjoying BDSM is just one facet of someone’s sexuality and lifestyle. It’s just regular people who happen to get off that way. It’s your neighbors and your teachers and the people bagging your groceries. The biggest myth is that you need this special set of circumstances. It’s regular people who have a need for that to be their intimate dynamic.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Know that you can always say no. <\/h4>\n\n\n\n

A lot of people starting out think it’s ‘all or nothing, especially if you’ve only been with one partner. For instance, you might think that because you enjoyed being submissive under certain circumstances, that means you must agree to a whole host of submissive or masochistic behaviors that you’re not necessarily into.<\/p>\n\n\n

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But that’s absolutely wrong. You can \u2014 and should \u2014 pick and choose which BDSM activities you are and are not interested in. And that can vary depending on the situation, the partner, or even the day. Just remember that consent is a requirement in BDSM<\/strong>, and it’s possible to consent to one thing while still objecting to another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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BDSMers are just as stable as people who prefer vanilla sex.\n \n <\/h4>\n\n\n\n

It’s easier for people to get into BDSM if they don’t have a history of abuse, people who are in a more stable place in their lives. People who had engaged in BDSM in the past year were no more likely to have been coerced into sexual activity and were no more likely to be unhappy or anxious than those who didn’t do BDSM. And actually, men who engaged in BDSM had lower scores of psychological distress than other men.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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That said, BDSMers do not typically judge people who aren’t into it. The term “vanilla” isn’t meant to be derogatory, just to refer to non-BDSM sexual acts or people who aren’t interested in kink.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Fifty Shades of Grey<\/em> is considered very cringeworthy in the BDSM community. <\/h4>\n\n\n\n

If you ever find yourself at a BDSM meet-up or dungeon, don’t mention any<\/em> shade of grey. While some people appreciate that the books spurred more interest in kink and may have made it less stigmatized, others take issue with the abusive, unhealthy relationship it portrays and the seriously unrealistic scenes. All in all, it is not an accurate representation of the BDSM community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It\u2019s not all whips and chains all the time \u2014 or ever, if that\u2019s not your thing. <\/h4>\n\n\n\n

Sure, some S&M enthusiasts might have these in their arsenal, but it’s definitely not everyone’s cup of kink. Some people go for what’s called ‘sensual dominance,’ which is where there might be some toys or play but no pain involved at all. It’s more like one partner agrees to do everything the other person asks. BDSM doesn’t have to follow any pattern, and there is no one model for what a BDSM relationship can be.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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BDSM encounters are called \u201cscenes.\u201d\n \n <\/h4>\n\n\n\n

Again, since it isn’t always about intercourse, you wouldn’t \nnecessarily say that you “had sex” or “hooked up” with someone after a \nBDSM experience. Instead, these are called scenes (like, you scened with\n someone or you had a scene).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It’s an evolution from a time where, if you did S&M, you might only do it with a professional for an hour, or you might just see it performed at a BDSM club. Now people have much more organic relationships, but they still call it a scene \u2014 the time when we bring out the toys or get into that headspace.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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There are dominants, submissives, tops, and bottoms <\/h4>\n\n\n\n
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\nSo you’ve probably heard about dominants and submissives (if not, the \ndominant enjoys being in charge, while the submissive enjoys receiving \norders). But BDSMers may also use the terms “tops” and “bottoms” to \ndescribe themselves. A top could refer to a dominant or a sadist \n(someone who enjoys inflicting pain), while a bottom could refer to a \nsubmissive or a masochist (someone who enjoys receiving pain). This \nallows you to have a blanket term for those who generally like being on \neither the giving or receiving end in a BDSM encounter. And there’s no \n rule that says you can’t be both<\/em> dominant and submissive in different circumstances or with different partners.\n\n<\/p>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n

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